Pilot or Passenger?

"In life, you are either a passenger or a pilot.  It's your choice."  Unknown

Facebook seems to be where I am finding my blog topics lately.  Maybe I spend too much time there, maybe not.  I did see this on Facebook yesterday and again today and it got me to thinking.  I do understand what the author was getting at with this.  That you either take control of the direction your life goes, or you allow someone else to.

Then I started thinking a little deeper.  I started thinking about how this applies to relationships, not just romantic relationships but to friendships and even just every day relationships that we have with those around us.  To make a relationship thrive, sometimes you are the pilot but sometimes you need to take the back seat and be the passenger.  The key is in finding the balance that works.

Each person needs their time in the pilot seat.  They need the opportunity to guide the direction the relationship is heading.  They need to feel that their input is important.  Problems start when one person doesn't want to share this seat.  If one person is the only one guiding where the relationship goes, the passenger will eventually begin to feel like their opinions, wants, desires and dreams don't matter.  Hurt, resentment and finally anger sets in if this doesn't change.  Both people need to feel like they have input.  Often the person who is constantly being placed in the passenger seat will finally make the decision to completely leave the plane.

I hope you are getting the time YOU need in the pilot seat to make your life fulfilling and HAPPY!!!!


Until next time........